Introducing our latest Guest Post from the fabulous and talented Denise Delamain, Personal Assistant at Hays & Winner of the Above & Beyond Award at the London PA Awards 2017.
We've all heard the phrase “fake it ‘til you make it”. But is there ever a time when that is the wrong advice to follow?
You could argue that pretending to be something that you’re not won’t get you where you want to be in the long term. Can you forever live a lie, or with the stress of being found out?
"Faking" something you want to become - for example to be more confident around others - can be seen as a process of self-improvement as long as you remain true to yourself and your fundamental beliefs.
If you want to be a successful person why would you not emulate your idols? After all, professional business people publish the secrets of their success all the time. Emulation is one thing - just be careful not to confuse it with outright plagiarism!
It is often more obvious to others than you think when you're not being yourself. It is hard to keep up the pretence because it becomes apparent you're faking it when you don't use your own words and ideas. If you try to move too far from your own personality it will affect your ability to move forward in the long term, because it means you don’t trust your own thought-making processes or your decisions.
In fact, I have to question if we are ever truly “ourselves”. We all have many incarnations - just think of all the many roles we play in our personal and professional lives. We are constantly adapting ourselves to our environments. Yet we can still be true to ourselves in our words and actions. There’s no faking required to transform your behaviour when you’re with your friends or your employer - it's called flexibility!
I honestly believe that if you're changing your long-term behaviours on the inside to improve yourself, I don't think that can be classed as “faking it”.
There's more than one way to be the best you. Don't think you can't change. Believe you can - but only for yourself, and not for what you think others will want to hear from you.